About me - Perfectionism coach Xandra

Hai, I am Xandra. Certified coach in Rotterdam, online and surrounding Rotterdam.

I am an open, sensitive and engaged coach with a background in life coaching, high sensitivity (HSP) and secondary education. As NOBCO Coach I specialized in perfectionism coachingHSP coaching and stress and burn-out coaching. My coaching style can be described as empathetic, attentive, reflective and incisive.

For as long as I can remember, I have loved drawing trees. Always the same, but slightly different. As a child of repeatedly divorced parents, 8 moves, 5 elementary schools and 3 high schools, I didn't get a lot of roots from home. Over the years, without being aware of it, this tree grew more and more leaves and roots. Like myself...

Thanks to these roots, both the tree and I can better absorb nourishment and I have learned what nourishes me. Like seeking nature, personal development and social contact. Both the tree and I have blossomed much more. In addition, being firmly rooted allows me to weather storms better.

For a long time I did not dare to follow my passion, coaching and psychology. I walked a path of expectations that was socially responsible, but not of myself. Gradually, however, I started to follow my heart and feelings more and more. The road to this was not easy at all, but through my growth and becoming more rooted, I have gained more awareness and I now follow my own path.

I see it as my mission to support others in their process of becoming more rooted and flourishing, both at work and at home. As a specialist, I help you deal with your perfectionism, high sensitivity, overcoming your burn-out and moving towards less stress, so that you finally get lasting peace of mind and have success and fulfilment at work and at home!

Training and accreditations

2025-2028 Bachelor Psychosozial Berater (Psychosocial Therapist/Counselor) - Dakota Institut Salzburg, Austria
2025-2026 ACT basic course - ACT in Action
2024 Listening to the Language of the Unsaid (Focusing) - The Balcony Training Center
2023 Stress and Burnout coaching - CSR Center of Expertise Stress and Resilience
2022 Voice Dialogue and Trauma - Voice Dialogue Academy
2022 Certified DISC behavioral and motivational analysis trainer - Talent First
2021 Voice Dialogue advanced training - Voice Dialogue Academy
2018 High Sensitivity Specialization - Susan Marletta Hart
2016-2018 Post-hbo Life Coach - Sonnevelt Training Programs
NOBCO Practitioner Coach (Dutch Association of Professional Coaches)
2021 Pre-Master English Literature and Culture - Leiden University
2018 Bachelor of Education - Rotterdam University of Applied Sciences
Affiliated with the Central Register for Short Professional Education (CRKBO)

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   Wouter Pullens 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Great help in getting in better shape.
  
 
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   Ed 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. The coaching with Xandra was intensive, confrontational, and exactly what I needed. It wasn't standard therapy, but truly tailored to me as a person. She is direct, clear about her boundaries, and provides practical tools that work. Thanks to her guidance, I have gotten to know myself better, learned to set healthy boundaries, and developed more self-love. In just eight sessions, she helped me change my life. I highly recommend her to anyone who is truly open to growth. I am grateful for what her guidance has done for me as a person and for those around me!
  
 
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   Jordy Den Held 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. I immediately clicked with Xandra. What I appreciate about her coaching style is that it is truly customized and personal, whether it takes place online, outdoors, or on location. That creates trust. After completing the program, I feel more in touch with my body; I no longer let myself be guided purely by rational thinking. I make more conscious choices and recognize my limits more quickly. Xandra listens attentively, but doesn't beat around the bush. She has a wealth of knowledge, draws on her own experience, and approaches situations from various angles and methodologies. In short: an enriching, personal coaching program that helps you get closer to yourself.
  
 
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   Dominique Tholhuijsen 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Last year, I received excellent guidance from Xandra. I learned to listen to my feelings more and be less hard on myself. The sessions were insightful, emotional, familiar, and always accompanied by a healthy dose of humor. Xandra makes you feel like she's on your side, but she can also give you a kick in the butt when necessary. For me, it's a good combination. I currently have a few more sessions with Xandra lined up to explore things in more depth. I can't give a better review than that :)
  
 
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   Angelique Hook 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. The coaching program I followed with Xandra taught me to be kinder to myself, to get more in touch with my feelings instead of diving into the ratio and to create more peace and balance for and especially within myself. Thanks to Xandra's attentive, skillful and loving guidance I can look back on a very valuable program, from which I will benefit and enjoy for the rest of my life. I can recommend it to every perfectionist/hsp-er/stress chick who wants to go through life happier!
  
 
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   Richard Nieuwenhuizen 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. The program at XvM Coaching helped me let go of the past and start living in the here and now again. After a period of skepticism—since I’d already gone through several coaching programs in the past—I took the plunge on the advice of those around me, and in hindsight, it was the best decision I could have made. XvM Coaching truly understood me throughout the process, provided me with valuable tools, and taught me to give not only my thoughts but also my feelings a prominent place in dealing with life’s challenges. I will continue to apply these techniques and look back with pride on a presentation I created during the program.
  
 
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   Dyonne van der Ven 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. I experienced my coaching program as very pleasant. It was a bit intense at times, but Xandra always knew how to adapt the exercises where necessary and to reassure me. I noticed to myself that thanks to the coaching program I have made great strides regarding choice stress (and stress at all). I would definitely recommend Xandra.
  
 
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   Robin Ruissen 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. A coach who listens to you, thinks with you, and is there for you when you need help. The combination of both online and now meeting on location gives a familiar but also nice homely feeling. She has ensured that we have achieved a lot in a short time. I have more peace of mind and a lot of clarity, thank you.
  
 
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   Monique Gram 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. I went through an intense but enjoyable coaching process with the help of Xandra. All sessions (both live and online) are personally tailored on a weekly basis. As a coachee you have a lot of space to discuss what is on your mind at the moment and where you need help. Xandra gives good exercises and tools to help you further. In addition, if applicable, the HSP aspect is included in the process, which helped me to understand myself better. Finally, I want to add that Xandra is easily accessible, even now that I have completed the coaching program I can reach her via email or Whatsapp if I get stuck. Should you still have doubts; you could never come out of the program worse, especially with Xandra as your coach.

Experiences

The conversations with Xandra were very helpful to me. Through the exercises I managed to get some rest and at the same time put my shoulders to the wheel to achieve my goals. It feels so good to make steps and to see progress. I can breathe again. Thanks a lot!

Bjorn la Tulippe, Style Director

Xandra is open, sincere and enthusiastic. This immediately created a safe environment where I felt I could say anything. Xandra feels well when you are in your head and with exercises she brought me back to rest and get back into the feeling. Thank you, Xandra, for your energy, passion for coaching, openness and honesty!

Felix Tan, business controller

With a course of action that was specially tailored to my situation, Xandra gave me the right tools to get out of a burn-out. With her help and perseverance I was able to find the energy to participate fully in life again.

Stress and burn-out recovery client Ivo Beek

Ivo Beek, data architect and entrepreneur

Coaching with Xandra I experienced as a clarification and relief. Xandra took the time and energy to achieve the desired result. The combination of face-to-face and online proved to be very pleasant. Because of the program I dare to express myself more, to take time for myself, I can deal with feelings more easily, give things a better place and get the rest I need.

Robin, Set Designer

When I entered the process with Xandra, I had been at home for some time due to burnout.

The course was tough, but it is very nice to see progression. Xandra's approach is very personal. Together we investigated at a deeper layer and did more than just look at the symptoms. The sessions were both physical and online and I have not noticed any difference between them.

I know better what I like and live more according to my values. I listen to my feelings and body and can make choices more easily. I got off the express train and live more consciously. I can enjoy again and would definitely recommend coaching by Xandra!

Christine, Journalist

Through the coaching, I gained insight into the causes of my energy deficits, know my pitfalls and patterns, and got tools to deal with them. I have much more energy and can tick off my to-do list again.

Thanks to the Voice Dialogue sessions with Xandra, I recognize my "selves" and consciously give them space or not. My biggest eye-opener is that I am a big pleaser. Because of the coaching I can say 'no' more easily and guard my boundaries. As a result I experience more peace, both privately and at work.

The coaching has helped me super much and I am very happy about that. Xandra, thank you for all the help!

Alwin, Finance Administrator

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