About me

Hi, I am Xandra.

An open, sensitive and committed coach with a background in life coaching, high sensitivity (HSP) and secondary education. As a NOBCO coach, I am specialised in perfectionism, high sensitivity and stress. My coaching style can be described as sensitive, attentive, reflective and thorough.

For as long as I can remember, I have loved drawing trees. Always the same, but slightly different. As a child of repeatedly divorced parents, 8 moves, 5 elementary schools and 3 high schools, I didn't get a lot of roots from home. Over the years, without being aware of it, this tree grew more and more leaves and roots. Like myself... 

Thanks to these roots, both the tree and I can absorb nutrition better; I have learned what nourishes me, such as seeking nature, personal development and social contact. Both the tree and I have blossomed much more. In addition, by being firmly rooted, I am better able to weather storms. 

For a long time I did not dare to follow my passion, coaching and psychology. I walked a path of expectations that was socially responsible, but not of myself. Gradually, however, I started to follow my heart and feelings more and more. The road to this was not easy at all, but through my growth and becoming more rooted, I have gained more awareness and I now follow my own path. 

I see it as my mission to support others in their process of becoming more rooted and flourishing, both at work and at home. As a specialist, I help you deal with your perfectionism, high sensitivity, overcoming your burn-out and moving towards less stress, so that you finally get lasting peace of mind and have success and fulfilment at work and at home!

Training and accreditations

  • Post-hbo Life Coach - Sonnevelt Opleidingen
  • Highly Sensitive Specialisation - Susan Marletta Hart
  • Voice Dialogue advanced training - The Balcony Training Centre
  • Voice Dialogue and Trauma - The Balcony Training Center
  • Certified DISC behavioral and motivational analysis trainer - Talent First
  • (expected: Sept. 2023) ACT basic course - ACT in Action
  • Member of the Dutch Association of Coaches (NOBCO)
  • Affiliated with Coachfinder
  • As a NOBCO member, I regularly attend workshops, lectures and master classes in the field of psychology.
  • Bachelor of Education - Rotterdam University
  • Pre-Master English Literature and Culture - Leiden University
  • Affiliated with the Central Register for Short Professional Education (CRKBO)
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Based on 15 reviews
Angelique Hook
Angelique Hook
The coaching program I followed with Xandra taught me to be kinder to myself, to get more in touch with my feelings instead of diving into the ratio and to create more peace and balance for and especially within myself. Thanks to Xandra's attentive, skillful and loving guidance I can look back on a very valuable program, from which I will benefit and enjoy for the rest of my life. I can recommend it to every perfectionist/hsp-er/stress chick who wants to go through life happier!
Richard Nieuwenhuizen
Richard Nieuwenhuizen
The process at XvM coaching helped me let go of the past and start living in the here and now again. After a skeptical period, given that I have been through several coaching programs in the past, I took the step on the advice of those around me, and in the end it was the best step I could have taken. XvM Coaching has really understood me during the program, gave me good tools and no longer only my thoughts, but also my feelings now have a prominent place in dealing with the challenges of life. I will continue to apply the techniques and proudly look back on a presentation I accomplished during the trajectory.
Dyonne van der Ven
Dyonne van der Ven
I experienced my coaching program as very pleasant. It was a bit intense at times, but Xandra always knew how to adapt the exercises where necessary and to reassure me. I noticed to myself that thanks to the coaching program I have made great strides regarding choice stress (and stress at all). I would definitely recommend Xandra.
Robin Ruissen
Robin Ruissen
A coach who listens to you, thinks with you, and is there for you when you need help. The combination of both online and now meeting on location gives a familiar but also nice homely feeling. She has ensured that we have achieved a lot in a short time. I have more peace of mind and a lot of clarity, thank you.
Monique Gram
Monique Gram
I went through an intense but enjoyable coaching process with the help of Xandra. All sessions (both live and online) are personally tailored on a weekly basis. As a coachee you have a lot of space to discuss what is on your mind at the moment and where you need help. Xandra gives good exercises and tools to help you further. In addition, if applicable, the HSP aspect is included in the process, which helped me to understand myself better. Finally, I want to add that Xandra is easily accessible, even now that I have completed the coaching program I can reach her via email or Whatsapp if I get stuck. Should you still have doubts; you could never come out of the program worse, especially with Xandra as your coach.
Angelique Vriens
Angelique Vriens
It is now almost a year since we came into contact with the coaching qualities of Xandra. We were diligently looking for a coach who could help our daughter with a very difficult phase in her young life. We are very grateful that Xandra was able to help her learn to let go and to take things less personally. The combination of Xandra's experience as a teacher and as HSP coach together with the challenges of our daughter proved very strong. In addition, it gave our daughter and us many insights into high sensitivity and what this really means. And how you can embrace this beautiful trait.
Vera Scheurkogel
Vera Scheurkogel
"Already during the first meeting I felt very comfortable. It was nice to feel that trust right away! I have received many handles. I can better guard my boundaries and I have become more compassionate towards myself. Now I take that moment to come to myself, am nicer to myself and have become more authentic. Coaching with Xandra I would recommend to everyone, but especially people who find it difficult to indicate boundaries, who struggle with perfectionism."
Gianmarco Nalin
Gianmarco Nalin
I had the chance to work with Xandra during my business English course. Xandra has been a wonderful teacher, always available to help whenever needed. Precise when providing corrections, it's been a pleasure improving my English with her.


The conversations with Xandra were very helpful to me. Through the exercises I managed to get some rest and at the same time put my shoulders to the wheel to achieve my goals. It feels so good to make steps and to see progress. I can breathe again. Thanks a lot!

Life coach client Bjorn la Tulippe

Bjorn la Tulippe, Style Director

Xandra is open, sincere and enthusiastic. This immediately created a safe environment where I felt I could say anything. Xandra feels well when you are in your head and with exercises she brought me back to rest and get back into the feeling. Thank you, Xandra, for your energy, passion for coaching, openness and honesty!

Life coach client Felix Tan

Felix Tan, business controller

With a course of action that was specially tailored to my situation, Xandra gave me the right tools to get out of a burn-out. With her help and perseverance I was able to find the energy to participate fully in life again.

Stress and burn-out recovery client Ivo Beek

Ivo Beek, data architect and entrepreneur

Coaching with Xandra I experienced as a clarification and relief. Xandra took the time and energy to achieve the desired result. The combination of face-to-face and online proved to be very pleasant. Because of the program I dare to express myself more, to take time for myself, I can deal with feelings more easily, give things a better place and get the rest I need.

Robin, Set Designer

When I entered the process with Xandra, I had been at home for some time due to burnout.

The course was tough, but it is very nice to see progression. Xandra's approach is very personal. Together we investigated at a deeper layer and did more than just look at the symptoms. The sessions were both physical and online and I have not noticed any difference between them.

I know better what I like and live more according to my values. I listen to my feelings and body and can make choices more easily. I got off the express train and live more consciously. I can enjoy again and would definitely recommend coaching by Xandra!

Christine, Journalist

Through the coaching, I gained insight into the causes of my energy deficits, know my pitfalls and patterns, and got tools to deal with them. I have much more energy and can tick off my to-do list again.

Thanks to the Voice Dialogue sessions with Xandra, I recognize my "selves" and consciously give them space or not. My biggest eye-opener is that I am a big pleaser. Because of the coaching I can say 'no' more easily and guard my boundaries. As a result I experience more peace, both privately and at work.

The coaching has helped me super much and I am very happy about that. Xandra, thank you for all the help!

Alwin, Finance Administrator

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