Perfectionism coaching program: Good as you are!
From never good enough to peace in your mind and body!
Are you ambitious and always go for the best result? Are you a huge go-getter, super careful and have an iron discipline? Then you probably hear that you are a perfectionist. Perfectionism has its good sides, but it can also get in the way if you overdo it.
Is your head always 'on'?
Do you always want to have everything under control and do you get stressed otherwise? Do you worry a lot? Do you regularly lie awake because your head won't shut off?
Do you often feel exhausted?
Do you find it difficult to relax and often feel rushed? Do you have to do everything, especially from yourself? Are you afraid of disappointing others and mainly concerned with pleasing? Do you block when you "must" perform and therefore do not reach your life goals?
Are you not easily satisfied?
Do you make high demands on yourself and can you always raise the bar? Do you work long hours, but find it increasingly difficult to get your work done? Are you afraid to make mistakes and do you endlessly postpone things?
The characteristics above are typical of the shadow side of perfectionism. As a result, you are always too busy, become emotionally and physically exhausted, run the risk of burnout and your social relationships suffer more and more from the eternal pursuit of perfection. Behind this is almost always a feeling of not being good enough, (a paralyzing) fear of criticism and wanting to avoid disappointing someone else.
Research shows that perfectionists are so keen to avoid disappointing others that they put more weight on this than on making a real, deep connection with them. A shame, because, in the words of shame researcher Brené Brown:
"Connection is the reason for our existence".
Just imagine ...
What would it be like for you if you kept the beautiful sides of your perfectionism and threw the rest overboard? When you could show your authentic, imperfect self to the world without shame or excuses and be proud of yourself? When you feel that you are good enough, exactly as you are?
So that you can let go of unimportant things much more easily and even allow yourself to make a mistake. So that you have time and energy for the things that are really important to you and can enjoy life again. And just look what happens to your relationships! Not only will you flourish, but so will everyone around you!
For years I myself was so afraid of making mistakes that I froze in the moments when I needed to perform. I was never satisfied with my output or myself at all. Everything had to be perfect or I wouldn't even start. In addition, I was especially preoccupied with what others expected of me (or what I thought they expected), tried to avoid criticism at all costs, and did not live the life I wanted to live.
Today, I can forgive myself my mistakes, adjust my demands where necessary and enjoy experiences of success. I can breathe again. I wish the same for you: that you can enjoy the little things again, that you are satisfied. That you experience peace, but also have energy and above all that you feel: I am completely okay the way I am!
I have therefore combined my experience and extensive knowledge in this perfectionism coaching program. So that you don't have to search for 20 years, but can change your life positively and permanently within a few months.
I can help you if you suffer from:
- endless brooding
- eternal doubt and stress of choice
- Procrastination and deeply embedded fear of failure
- the bar that you set higher and higher and which you actually get tired of
- uncertain feelings
- overwhelming emotions, feeling unhappy, stress and exhaustion
- that you get less and less done and have difficulty with deadlines, planning and prioritising
"Perfectionism is a 20-ton harness. It's a way of thinking that says: if I look perfect, live perfect and work perfect, I can avoid or minimize criticism and blame."
- –
Brené Brown
Of course, you can choose to keep dragging this armour around with you. It is quite exciting to do things differently, isn't it? Maybe you can't even imagine how things could be different.
I want to tell you that it can all be much nicer! You can struggle on alone, but together it is much easier and faster.
Are you ready to battle with your obstructing patterns, so you can finally live the life you want to live? Do you allow yourself that peace of mind and body? For you I have developed the perfectionism coaching program "Good as you are". Want to know what I can do for you? Let's get acquainted.
And then there is that doubt ...
That too is typically perfectionist!
Will I really achieve my goals? Can I allow myself this coaching programme? Shouldn't I be able to solve this myself?
When in doubt, I want to ask you especially: what happens if you don't do it? What will it cost you? How much time, energy and pleasure will you lose if you continue like this? How long do you have to hang on before you allow yourself that peace and space? And what could this trajectory bring you?
This is you after our cooperation
- You worry much less and experience more energy, peace and freedom in your work and at home
- You set boundaries without guilt and dare to show your authentic 'I' to the world
- You are less critical of yourself and others and can better let go of the need for control
- You are kinder to yourself and feel connection with yourself and your environment
- You easily make choices that suit you and your values
- You recognise the message behind your emotions and can act on it
You have peace of mind again and worry less about what others think. You can breathe again with relief!
Still in doubt? Feel free to contact me via the contact form or by directly purchasing a Schedule an appointment in the calendar. Then we will discuss via video call if the program suits you and see right away if we have a match.
1-on-1 Coaching Programme 'As Good As You Are
In this coaching program, we will work together for 6 to 9 months to examine all aspects of your perfectionism.
How does it work?
In personal coaching sessions (both live and online) you will gain insights into the causes of your perfectionism and the underlying patterns that prevent you from achieving your goals. You will experience where your strengths lie and together we will work towards your goals, more peace of mind, self-confidence and fun.
We do this using the unique PERFECKT method©:
- Discovering and breaking patterns
- Daring to allow and regulate emotions
- Creating peace and space for yourself
- Creating focus & flow
- (Re)discovering self-worthusing self-compassion practice
- Letting go of control
- Learning to use vulnerability as a strength
- Experiencingsatisfaction
I work from a holistic perspective and deploy a mix of exercises and methods aimed at restoring the connection between your head, body, heart and intuition.
Perfectionism coaching - What you get when you choose this program
What makes this programme different is the high quality* and the personal attention that I offer you. You are number one in this programme!
Prior to the program, during the deep-dive we explore your unique situation and discover if there is a click. We always start the program with a comprehensive kick-off session, where we further explore your coaching question and clarify it where necessary. At the end of this session, you already have new insights and concrete to-do's. Then, during the 1-on-1 coaching sessions of 90 minutes, we get to work with practical exercises and valuable, insightful conversations. We will also go outside, where you will learn to reconnect with your body through mindfulness, among other things. In a concluding session we close together by looking back on your achieved goal(s) and personal growth.
During the program, you will work with personalized exercises and gain interesting knowledge, so that you understand even better what keeps you stuck. This insight is crucial to be able to change. You will receive personal support throughout the program via email, WhatsApp or by phone (fair use policy).
After our collaboration, you use your perfectionism for the right things. You let go of stress as a lifestyle, which makes you feel calm and secure. You keep time and energy for the things you really want and you will experience that you are good just the way you are. You experience connection with others and yourself and enjoy life to the fullest again!
* This perfectionist does not do half a job either (-;
Content perfectionism coaching program
'Good as you are'
Business or employer? Please feel free to contact us for customization options!
6 months
Good as you are
- Personal deep-dive before the start of the programme
- 2-hour kick-off
- 10 personal coaching sessions (90 min.).
- Outdoor session of 2 - 2.5 hours
- Closing session & evaluation
- Personalised exercises
- Personal support via e-mail, WhatsApp or telephone
- Bonus!
Nice reflection book for taking notes, tracking your progress and to-do's
8 months
Good as you are Stress-free
- Personal deep-dive before the start of the programme
- 2-hour kick-off
- 15 personal coaching sessions (90 min.).
- 2 Outdoor sessions (2 - 2.5 hours)
- Closing session & evaluation
- Personalised exercises
- We go deeper into the causes and effects of stress and I help you to break through your stress pattern
- Personal support via e-mail, WhatsApp or telephone
- Bonus!
Nice reflection book for taking notes, tracking your progress and to-do's - Additional material and exercises on stress
- Bonus: The book "The Courage of Imperfection" by Brené Brown
8 months
HSP & Good as you are
- Personal deep-dive before the start of the programme
- 2-hour kick-off
- 15 personal coaching sessions (90 min)
- 2 Outdoor sessions (2 - 2.5 hours)
- Closing session & evaluation
- Personalised exercises
- With a mountain of additional knowledge and exercises, you will learn to transform your sensitivity from task to gift
- Personal support via e-mail, WhatsApp or telephone
- Bonus!
Nice reflection book for taking notes, tracking your progress and to-do's - A lot of extra material and exercises about high sensitivity
- Bonus: The book "The Courage of Imperfection" by Brené Brown
What others say
Experiences
Read more about what others say:
The conversations with Xandra were very helpful to me. Through the exercises I managed to get some rest and at the same time put my shoulders to the wheel to achieve my goals. It feels so good to make steps and to see progress. I can breathe again. Thanks a lot!
Bjorn la Tulippe, style director, Rotterdam
Xandra is open, sincere and enthusiastic. This immediately created a safe environment where I felt I could say anything. Xandra feels well when you are in your head and with exercises she brought me back to rest and get back into the feeling. Thank you, Xandra, for your energy, passion for coaching, openness and honesty!
Felix Tan, business controller, Rotterdam
With a course of action that was specially tailored to my situation, Xandra gave me the right tools to get out of a burn-out. With her help and perseverance I was able to find the energy to participate fully in life again.
Ivo Beek, data architect and entrepreneur, Spijkenisse
Want to know how you can grow from unhealthy to healthy perfectionism and how I can help you?
Let's have a virtual cup of tea to discuss your situation and to see if it clicks. Make your appointment in my calendar without any obligation.
